Agility and Interruptions
What does that mean to you?
Agility is the ability to move nimbly with speed and ease, but what is mental agility? What is agility in our relationships/connections, and at work? Mental agility refers to mental sharpness and quickness. That to me also means the ability to shift from the different roles I play. I’m a sister, aunt, daughter, friend, colleague, writer, and the list goes on. For others, that’s also partner/spouse, parent, grandparent.
It can become easy to lose sight of our goals, both big and small, when swept away with day-to-day responsibilities. Interruptions and distractions are inevitable. Car problems, health challenges, a sick or struggling loved one, a heartbreak, work challenges. How do you keep yourself grounded and centered in order to remain balanced in these roles? Sometimes balance, quite frankly, seems impossible. When I’m a great family member, maybe I’m not able to show up as the best colleague, and visa versa. So, it’s about now that I’m probably losing you because you’re rolling your eyes at my naivety (especially if you’re a parent) and maybe thinking a couple of things. 1) that I’m bonkers because being a parent = this constant state of guilt and, 2) that I need a reality check altogether. Totally fair, but I do believe this is possible for all in each of our own unique ways. We just have to prioritize and plan differently according to our lifestyles. If we don’t prioritize this kind of self-care and personal agility, we are also teaching ALL of our loved ones that it’s acceptable to not take care of ourselves. For me, this often comes up as “I’m feeling taken advantage of”, but I’m in charge of setting boundaries in order not to feel this way. We teach people how to treat us. If it feels better for you to make an excuse for why you can’t do so, then this isn’t your time to be working on this part of yourself and that’s okay. I hope you come back another time on a different topic. We are each in charge of our own journeys. We can challenge ourselves to show up in the ways we want. We have to act though. We have to set the intention and act accordingly in ways that work well for us.
In those moments, those stressful and overwhelming moments, what do you do in order to show up as the best possible version of yourself? Here are a few ideas if you are unsure, and combine as necessary:
- Take a bathroom break. Close your eyes. Take 5 deep breaths.
- Journal. It’s still acceptable to have a diary post middle and high school. Ask yourself, what am I feeling? Why? What’s coming up for you? What are you most grateful for right now? What are you going to do today to make it amazing? What are you proud of accomplishing lately?
- Yoga. You don’t have to be good. And we always must start from somewhere.
- Sweat it out. Do your favorite workout even if it’s only 15 minutes. 15 minutes is better than nothing at all, and again, we must start from somewhere.
- Go do your favorite thing. Whatever it is. Go to your favorite coffee shop or restaurant and treat yourself. Sometimes I’ll go to my favorite park and take a walk by the water listening to classical music - to each their own! ;)
- Its SUMMER! Get outside. Even if it’s hot and humid. Connecting with nature fuels the soul even when you don’t realize. Maybe even when it's raining, go dance in it. I double dog dare you to be a kid again for 5 minutes.
I challenge you, not just in the difficult moments, but on some kind of regular schedule to act on your self-care to improve your personal agility. You will actually be a better family member, friend, colleague, and whatever your heart desires. You can have what you want, but it requires work. It's all worth it, and it's always never ending. That's the joy. Because we are in alignment and in pursuit of what we want most for ourselves. The pursuit of happiness of part of the American Dream, but you can reframe your beliefs of what that means and find joy every single day by having more awareness around our everyday choices.
I hope this helps you on YOUR journey. It's a jog not a sprint. It's a process. We can only hope for constant change and growth in becoming better day by day. Thanks for stopping by for my food for thought post today. I hope it helped you in some way. I appreciate you. If you loved it, I would love it if you shared it. Happy Sunday! Make it a great one.